Tuesday, April 27, 2010

Arranged Marriage - Some Unbelievable facts

Yesterday, I came across another strange fact about this well known concept of marriage in Indian society known as - Arranged Marriage.

"If any of your ancestors, mind it , I am talking about your great great grandfathers and grandmothers, whom you might not even know by name, have resided in the same village as one of the ancestors of your would be spouse, then that family and your family are relatives."

Warning to ALL the parents out there, if you are looking for a bride or groom for your child, be CAUTIOUS, because you might end up finding a brother!!

I sometimes wonder how contradictory thoughts are prevalent in this Indian society when it comes to arranged marriages.

1. The marriage has to be within the same caste. **Conditions apply

**Marriage within the same GOTRA is not allowed. (GOTRA according to my understanding, is a sub-caste within a caste and people in the same GOTRA are siblings).
** Your ancestors and ancestors of your would be spouse should not have lived together in the same village.

2. Inter-caste marriage is not allowed.
Even if you are very broad minded about tying a knot with other castes, the fear of non-acceptance of this fact by some relatives of yours and the thought that this step might cut your family off from some of the close relations, would forbid you from doing what your mind says.

I am not against arranged marriages, but somehow I feel these 'difficult to believe' facts should be buried to make it bug free.

Thursday, June 4, 2009

S.H.O.W. M.E. T.H.E. W.A.Y.

Its 6:30 in the morning when my mobile rings and my damn lazy eyes try hard to open up and check the call. I wake up, walk besides my bed and grab my mobile phone lying on the showcase of my wardrobe. Then, I return back to my position I had before the phone rang. (Note: All this happens within 15 seconds of time frame, Wow!! I wonder how fast our brain works when we are half asleep… :-)). After listening to my favorite ringtone (The song from the movie ‘Yuvraj’, Aaja me hawaon pe bithake le chalu, tu hi toh meri dost hai) for about 30 seconds, the mobile still held in my hand, I disconnect the call, keep the phone nearby, wherever my hand reaches out fast and get back to my dreamland to enjoy a few extra minutes my dear sleep. And when sometimes these few extra minutes turn into a massive ½ an hour, I find myself running around to get myself ready by 7:30, the time at which I leave for the office. I run down the stairs with two bags in my one hand (one is a Laptop bag, without a laptop :-) and another is my lunch cum breakfast bag) and mobile phone in the other hand. On my way down I keep checking in my mind if I had not missed anything that had to be kept as I reach the basement of my apartments (the parking area) to board my sweet little princess(that’s my car) and rush my way to the office.

I forgot to mention one thing that you must also be wondering,’ The morning call’. Well it’s my sweet friend (my alarm clock :-)) who rings me up daily at 6:30 to wake my lazy soul up. How sweeeeeeeeeet!! She has really been my motivation for bringing up the characteristic of ‘Punctuality’ in me. Although she might not be satisfied with my improvement in this field as I still do sometimes get 5 -10 minutes late, but I admit I have improved. Had she not been there, I would never have had reached office by 8:30. So, my dear friend, if you are reading this, I owe this to you, thanks for being there!!

Coming back to the topic, as I reach my office after a continuous and tiring drive for one hour, I am exhausted (Half of the day’s work is done, toh thakawat toh hogi hi na ,  ) . I go and wash my face, wash my glasses, wear them and get myself ‘uncomfortable’ on the my chair. Yes, the boring part of the day begins – the office. My office – jaha sab apni apni dukan kholke baith jate hain aur keyboard naam ki cheez ko peet peet k poora din nikal deta hain! Yes, you guessed it right. I am a software engineer and I describe myself like this:

I start my day by sitting on a chair,
Giving my monitor a hard, cold stare,
By evening I'm done with another coding,
Oh! This has become a routine so boring.

Like all, I entered this field with great hope,
Jobs were many and there was plenty of scope,
Dreams of joining the likes of Gates,
And a chance to make money in the States.

Thus, I entered the world of bytes,
Only to realize that reality bites,
'Coz a programmer's life, isn't all that cozy,
The bed of software isn't all that rosy.

Seeing the monitor all day n night,
Have taken the power off my eyesight,
Late to bed n late to rise,
Has made me wealthy, but not healthy n wise.

I hate u, yet I can't get away,
'Coz I need the money u pay,
God, to thee I pray,
If there be one - show me the way.

Thursday, May 14, 2009

T.H.E. B.E.G.I.N.N.I.N.G

Heya !! I am here .. In the world of bloggers. Never would have started this (being an extremely reserved person to strangers), but I got inspiration from one very close friend of mine. And I am here to disclose my inner self through my PAGES of life. The very prospect of uncovering myself to the readers of this blog, made me think and think and think !! Is it right !! Am I gonna do this ??? Share my life with the public. And suddenly a thought came to my mind …. ‘Come on Ankur !! What’s wrong in that … Sharing is everywhere…We share knowledge, we share thoughts, ideas and feelings, we share our belongings, our habitat etc… In short this world cannot exist if you stop sharing.’ And this very idea made me realize the importance of sharing. I am sure my blogs will certainly inspire atleast one individual, my experiences will help atleast one other person and my articles would be a favourite timepass for atleast one buddy of mine. With this hope I begin my experience of Blogging. Welcome to my P.A.G.E.S.!!